Psychologists have been exploring the cognitive psychology of opening lines to any relationship- professional or emotional from a very very long time.
Here I will sum up a lot of research done by them for you in order to get the best results from your pick up lines this valentine's week.
DEMAND AND SUPPLY
A woman is on an average hit up more than a man in the society that is skewed up in terms of gender ratio. There is a thing that is called mental state and for a woman it becomes more and more rigid and torturous than fun after some time. It may be true for men as well but the reasons may also be increased frustration of not getting a direct call for what they want. For example follow this hypothetical conversation between Alice and Bob
Alice: "Hey! Got your number from Sam. Was thinking if you are easy? Cause I am
Bob: "Well..no. I am as tough as a diamond. At times I shine"
Exchanging the conversation
Bob: "Hey! Got your number from Sam. Was thinking if you are easy? Cause I am
Alice: "Thanks. But I guess..it's a no."
or else, maybe the conversation follows something like
Alice: "Ha..Ha...Thanks Bob. Yeah Sam is a dear friend. How have you been doing?"
Please note that this is just a hypothetical assumption. In the real world with a lot of diverse conversations are bound to be diverse in nature but you get the idea? Right. The conversation flows in the direction of demand from the direction of the supply. Or if there is no demand, a demand needs to be generated.
INTROSPECTION INTO YOUR OWN COGNITIVE BIASES TO IDENTIFY THEIRS
Quoting wikipedia
"A cognitive bias refers to the systematic pattern of deviation from norm or rationality in judgment, whereby inferences about other people and situations may be drawn in an illogical fashion."
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In an ideal case you are not always in the fittest of your mind to give a wonderful reply to a wonderful pick up line. It is not even essential. So it is with the person who you are talking with. It may have been a busy day or he/she has a notion that is preconceived / built on experiences or he / she is tired of being in the supply and not his / her demand. With dating everyone is a supplier and everyone has demands. Someone's benefit is subjected to someone else's actions. Much like game theory where one's own actions affect every participant in the game.
Any pick up line can have few characteristics
Here I will sum up a lot of research done by them for you in order to get the best results from your pick up lines this valentine's week.
DEMAND AND SUPPLY
A woman is on an average hit up more than a man in the society that is skewed up in terms of gender ratio. There is a thing that is called mental state and for a woman it becomes more and more rigid and torturous than fun after some time. It may be true for men as well but the reasons may also be increased frustration of not getting a direct call for what they want. For example follow this hypothetical conversation between Alice and Bob
Alice: "Hey! Got your number from Sam. Was thinking if you are easy? Cause I am
Bob: "Well..no. I am as tough as a diamond. At times I shine"
Exchanging the conversation
Bob: "Hey! Got your number from Sam. Was thinking if you are easy? Cause I am
Alice: "Thanks. But I guess..it's a no."
or else, maybe the conversation follows something like
Alice: "Ha..Ha...Thanks Bob. Yeah Sam is a dear friend. How have you been doing?"
Please note that this is just a hypothetical assumption. In the real world with a lot of diverse conversations are bound to be diverse in nature but you get the idea? Right. The conversation flows in the direction of demand from the direction of the supply. Or if there is no demand, a demand needs to be generated.
INTROSPECTION INTO YOUR OWN COGNITIVE BIASES TO IDENTIFY THEIRS
Quoting wikipedia
"A cognitive bias refers to the systematic pattern of deviation from norm or rationality in judgment, whereby inferences about other people and situations may be drawn in an illogical fashion."
MUST READ: Why Women’s Bad Online Dating Profiles Still Attract Tons of Men
In an ideal case you are not always in the fittest of your mind to give a wonderful reply to a wonderful pick up line. It is not even essential. So it is with the person who you are talking with. It may have been a busy day or he/she has a notion that is preconceived / built on experiences or he / she is tired of being in the supply and not his / her demand. With dating everyone is a supplier and everyone has demands. Someone's benefit is subjected to someone else's actions. Much like game theory where one's own actions affect every participant in the game.
Any pick up line can have few characteristics
- Easy to understand and be identified
- Easy to comprehend what it targets at
- Easy to reply to
- Cute
- Funny
- Tactful
- Cheesy
- Can take the conversation forward
- Outright creepy and perverted
- Can be interpreted as creepy and perverted
Example?
Tell me a pick up line you'd like to hear?
Explanations: Properties 1,2,3,5,6,7,8
Apart from being funny this statement is great conversation starter.
Bob: Hey Alice! Tell me a pick up line you'd like to hear?
Alice1: Not one right now but maybe sometime later?
or
Alice2: The one you'd like to say
or
Alice3: None. But I won't mind compliments
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In case 1 Alice is not sure of what she wants. She is not sure if she wants to to be with Bob or she is not sure about her own objectives. In case two she is playful. It doesn't mean she's into Bob (Or it may even be true) but generally she's thinking like "Screw it..let's see what next!"
In case 3 She's disinterested but sends a decent reply (Mildly sarcastic as well)
Well.. we'll see more examples in the later half of the post.
COGNITIVE FATIGUE
Your mind is not a machine. There is fatigue and you are not always in the best of your mind to reply to every damn pick up line or anything of that sort. In an ideal non-depletion non-taxed no fatigue condition is unpredictable however. So here are some 3 tips to take care of
- Don't cause the fatigue. Oh yeah. Lines like "You're hot babe. Do fraandship with me" suck. They qualify only for the point 9 and 10 and maybe even the "funny" point but in a completely different manner. Do not pester. Be decent and patient. You might hit the jackpot very soon.
- For men: You either create a negative opinion about yourself or you create a positive opinion about yourself. You lose or you win due to this. If you are supremely good looking and hot it may take you far to some extent but not all the way. Specially if you are looking for a long term relationships.
- For women: Do not follow your instinct always. Do not fall into Cognitive bias traps.
Bob: Hi from Mars. I'm Mars
Alice: Heyya... But it reads Bob. Lol...
Bob: Bob Mars they call me. I live on Earth though. What you doing?
Alice: Lol.. Cooking tea for mom. What about you?
Bob: Tea? Wow. I'd love to have some right now but my cat is sleeping in my kettle.
Alice: Lol... really? You have a cat?
Bob: I have a cat, a bitch, a hen and a cow. Lot of female company.
Alice: Hahaha.... And you live with them all? Lucky guy.
Bob: My home still has some empty space. Was planing to get a female company though. Homo Sapien to be specific. Domestic.. Pet and maybe wild?
Alice: Lol... All the best for that. Hope you find her soon:)
Bob: Depends on what you exactly have in mind ;). Oh! The cat came out of the kettle.
Stay tuned for next post to see what happened
If you keep these things in mind you'll definitely get a yes always. We'll continue to discuss more on this in the next post.And remember. Don't get fooled by your own cognitive biasses. I take out a lot of time to write these things for you. Please support my blogging. Even a minor donation will work or you could just share this post: Go here:
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